Suarez

Suarez

Anger Management for Suarez?

Much judgement has been passed to date as to what really happened between Luis Suarez and Giorgio Chiellini in that now infamous World Cup match, with public opinion split over a) whether Suarez actually did bite the Italian defender, as has been the popular perception, and b) whether and how Suarez should be most fairly reprimanded for his actions.

Of course, the sports sections have also been awash with assumptions and speculations as to why Suarez has a tendency towards biting, with discussions linking his current behaviour to difficulties in his upbringing, and commentators suggesting that Suarez should undertake further therapy in order to tackle this recurrent issue.

Somewhat unhelpfully, reports in the Telegraph and the Guardian have denounced Suarez’s behaviour as “childish” and an action led by emotions which he was “unable to control in the way most people do”, respectively. While there is, of course, a context from which these quotes were taken, to pathologise the footballer’s actions and imply that “most people” are able to control their anger is not helpful when thinking about ways to work constructively with anger management for the many, many people who do, in varying ways, struggle to control their anger on a daily basis. It is not an unusual phenomenon: many people frequently battle to manage explosive feelings, and may find that they are pushed to their limit by seemingly innocuous events, resulting in lashing out verbally or physically, damaging external objects or turning the anger inwards resulting in harm to oneself, either intentionally or indirectly.

People who have trouble managing their anger may feel isolated, out of control, and suffer from a loss of trust in themselves. They may experience feelings of guilt and shame, for behaving as they do once they have crossed the point from which they cannot return. As much as an individual may promise to change, to remain in control and to walk away or count to ten when things start to become stressful, when it comes to the crunch this can prove to be impossible. To really work with and manage those explosive, out of control feelings, one needs proper help and support from a trained professional who understands the issues.

The counsellors and therapists at The Grove are trained and experienced in working with people who are struggling to manage their anger, as well as other difficult emotions. We will work with you to help understand your triggers and develop techniques for managing your anger, and will also unpick what is really going on for you, to help you work through the underlying issues and develop an understanding of why it is difficult to control your anger. We can also talk about more constructive ways to manage your anger, so that you can start to externalise your feelings rather than harbouring them inside where they fester.

If you relate to that tipping point, where you lose control of your actions and go on to regret your behaviours, it might be time to seek support and help. At The Grove we will offer a free 30-minute assessment during which you can talk about what is going on for you, and what kind of support you are looking for. From there, we will pair you up with a therapist who will work with you to help both manage your emotions and understand yourself better.