Family talk about fear of son’s suicide

The family of Andrew Quigley, a 20-year old man who has been missing since last Friday, have spoken out about his depression and suicidal feelings, in an attempt to overturn a decision made by politicians around the Londonderry area of Northern Ireland to not fund a counselling centre for people experiencing suicidal feelings.


Relatives of Quigley, who fear that he may have taken his life, have described the man as a “lovely young man, much loved by his family and friends”, according to the Belfast Telegraph. They have also talked about how his depression had been exacerbated by the death of his father last year, and felt that Andrew might have been able to cope better had he received the right support when he was feeling vulnerable. Instead Quigley turned to drugs, like so many people who are suffering from depression and other psychological conditions, resorting to self-medication as a means of dealing with his problems. Quigley was reportedly so desperate for help that he asked to be reported.


Many people who suffer from depression – either as an ongoing condition or as a reaction to a traumatic life event – feel desperate, and may consider suicide. Suicidal intent, or actually making plans to end your life and thinking through how you might do this, may arise as a result of depression or other difficult feelings or situations, while suicidal ideation, such as fantasising about no longer existing or idealising about what it would be like to be dead, can also be distressing, even if you have no concrete plans to end your life.


Our counsellors and therapists at The Grove are trained in working with people who are feeling suicidal, or like they want to end it all. We are familiar with working with such presentations, and will offer you the time and space to talk through what is going on for you and what you are experiencing, without judging and always ensuring that your safety remains our priority. Many people who come to counselling to talk about feeling hopeless and depressed, or about fantasies they have of no longer living, find the therapy room becomes the one place where they can voice these thoughts and talk about their feelings and still be fully accepted. Although friends and family mean well and can be supportive, this can also be a difficult time for them and they may not be able to listen to and support you as fully as an impartial therapist. We will validate your feelings and give you the time and space to explore what is going on for you in your own time.


If you are considering suicide, or are experiencing suicidal thoughts and ideation, you may be experiencing a range of emotions. You may feel that there is no other way out and that you have no-one to talk to, or as if no-one can understand what you are going through. But there are people who can help, and who can support you through this difficult, trying and confusing time. If you feel alone and isolated this can make things worse, so let’s talk and see how we can be of help. Contact The Grove today for a free 30 minute consultation, and let’s see how we can start working through this together.