Princess Märtha Louise of Norway: “I had therapy”.
Princess Märtha Louise of Norway, who moved to London with her husband Ari Behn in September 2012, spoke out this week about having a course of therapy when she was a teenager. The Local, an English language Norwegian newspaper, reported that Martha Louise had therapy to overcome her insecurities and feelings of depression. The paper also reported that the Princess said she felt guilty for feeling the way she did when she was born into such privilege.
“Throughout my teenage years, I was very insecure…I wondered what was right for me to say. If someone criticized me, I took it very much to heart.” Her Highness, now 41, reportedly told the magazine Oslo/Norway. “I felt very guilty about feeling depressed when I am so privileged.”
Although part of Princess Martha’s reason for having therapy was her struggle to deal with life a part of a royal family – something to which very few of us can directly relate – her wider story may feel more familiar. Especially those questions around whether we ‘deserve’ therapy or are entitled to the space when, from an outsider’s perspective, everything seems pretty ‘cushty’.
However, as more people who appear to ‘have it all’ are speaking out about their experiences of therapy and telling us how counselling has benefited them – including Halle Berry, David Bowie, Vinnie Jones and Madonna – many people are feeling happier about seeking therapeutic support. A report by the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists, entitled “The Future Foundation into the progress of therapy in Britain”, cited findings that “83 per cent of British adults either have had or would consider having counselling and psychotherapy”.
At The Grove we work with people who have experienced a situational crisis or trauma, either repeatedly or in isolation, but we also work with people whose presenting issues are less clear. Perhaps you are struggling to work out who you really are and what you really want out of life. Or maybe a life event such as a significant birthday, your graduation, retirement or your children leaving home has brought up certain questions. Perhaps you have been thrust into a new situation, either in your professional or personal life, that you are struggling to get to grips with and would like to discuss. Or maybe life seems to be moving on for others while you feel stuck. Any number of situations can lead us to wonder more deeply about ourselves, our lives, or our identities, and can leave us feeling lost and uncertain. It can be helpful to talk to an impartial person about what is going on and how to move forward.
Many people do worry that they shouldn’t really be coming for therapy, and that they should be able to ‘go it alone’. Some people feel that their problems are not significant enough, and that they shouldn’t be seeking help. This is not the case. If you are ready to talk we, at The Grove, are ready to listen.