Plans to fund therapy for adopted children announced by UK Government
David Cameron has recently announced the UK government’s launch of the Adoption Support Fund. The Fund has been set up in response to calls for increased support for families who have been through adoption, and will fund therapy for children who have been adopted – and may have also experienced abuse or neglect – from 2015.
“We know that children adopted from care have often lived through terrible experiences which do not just simply disappear once they have settled with their new families”, Edward Timpson, the Children and Families Minister, was expected to say at a conference announcing the details of the plan. Meanwhile Jeanne Kaniuk OBE, Coram’s Head of Adoption, spoke of the potential long-term effects of adoption on an individual in response to the announcement of the Fund: “Coram has long recognised the vital role of post adoption support, offering a range of life-long support to our adopted children and families, so increased investment to help more families who need this can’t come soon enough”.
At The Grove we understand that being adopted – as a baby, child or teenager – can continue to affect our lives right into adulthood. Feelings of loss, rejection and abandonment may continue to surface throughout adult life, and can come to the fore at any time, however long after the actual adoption. They may even feel stronger in adulthood than they did in earlier years. It may be that you are still grieving losses of the past, no matter how good your upbringing with your adoptive parents, and you may need to work through some painful feelings in order to be able to live more fully in the present and live the life you really want. Our therapists can provide a space where you can do this and get more of a handle on your history, so that you can start to move on from those difficult feelings.
You may be curious about your birth parents, and it could be that you are considering searching for them. As an adopted child it might feel as if there are gaps in your identity, and you may want to learn more about your heritage. Or perhaps you have medical concerns and want to trace your genetic medical history. Whatever the reason, making the decision to search for your birth parents can lead to feelings of guilt or disloyalty towards your adoptive parents, and it might be hard to talk to them about your plans. It can be a frightening and overwhelming time, and it can be hard to know where to go for support in making the initial decision, and throughout the ensuing process.
We can provide a space where you can talk through and consider your options, which will help you in making a decision about what to do and how to go about it. Dr Allan N. Schwartz, a therapist and social worker from Colorado, says that: “Psychotherapy is extremely helpful in reducing guilt, anxiety, depression and fear about being adopted. It can also remove some of the internal stumbling blocks to doing a search, if you wish”. Let’s talk first, before you start to search, so that we can help you manage strong feelings that are surfacing and support you in planning the next steps of your journey.